EP266 From Frustration to Fulfillment: Meeting Your Needs in Sex and Relationships Utilizing the Erotic Blueprint with Intimacy Coach Jessie Fresh

In this podcast, the hosts introduce their VIP membership community, Climax, where they meet monthly with pleasure seekers and sex experts and then hop on air to record an episode together. This month's featured guest is erotic blueprint expert and intimacy coach Jessie Fresh. The conversation centers around overcoming sexual challenges and harnessing the wisdom and practicality of the erotic blueprints. Jessie shares her personal experiences and how understanding your needs can help overcome these challenges. The hosts also discuss their philosophy of pleasure positive living, which means engaging in life from a place of honor, taking responsibility for your pleasure, and cultivating courage, compassion, and connection to live an authentic life that turns you on.

00:00:00 Overcoming sexual challenges through needs.

00:06:07 Understanding erotic blueprints for pleasure.

00:15:30 Relaxing the butthole enhances pleasure.

00:18:27 Take time to indulge senses.

00:23:41 Deck out your space sensually.

00:29:09 Explore and embrace your desires.

00:35:00 Novelty is important for pleasure.

00:41:28 Embrace pleasure as a lifestyle.

00:47:44 Explore your erotic blueprint.

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Understanding needs improves sexual experiences.

Sexuality is an integral part of human life, and understanding one's needs can significantly improve sexual experiences. The Climax membership community offers access to sex experts who provide direct coaching to members. In a recent podcast, the community featured Jessie Fresh, a sexologist, kink, and erotic blueprint coach, to discuss overcoming sexual challenges and how they are connected to unmet needs.

Jessie Fresh shared her personal experience of being asked by a partner what she wanted during sex and being unable to respond. She felt stuck in her head, hypersensitive to touch, and frustrated. She realized that her frustration was due to unmet needs that she did not even understand. She started studying the erotic blueprints, which gave her a direct pathway to understanding her needs and how to ask for them.

Understanding needs is crucial to improving sexual experiences. The erotic blueprints provide a framework for identifying the specific needs of individuals. The five erotic blueprints are energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter. Each blueprint represents a unique set of needs, and understanding them can help individuals communicate their desires effectively.

The podcast also highlighted the importance of responsibility in pleasure positive living. Responsibility means being the source of one's pleasure and taking aligned action to live a life that turns one on. Pleasure positive living is about engaging in life from a place of honor, cultivating courage, compassion, and connection, and waking up excited to live the life one has designed for oneself.

Understanding needs and taking responsibility for one's pleasure can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience. It allows individuals to communicate their desires effectively, which can lead to greater intimacy and connection with their partners. It also helps individuals to explore their desires and understand that they can shift and change over time.

In conclusion, understanding needs is crucial to improving sexual experiences. The Climax membership community offers access to sex experts who provide direct coaching to help individuals identify and communicate their desires effectively. Pleasure positive living emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's pleasure and engaging in life from a place of honor. By understanding their needs and taking responsibility for their pleasure, individuals can experience a more fulfilling sexual experience.

Understand your erotic blueprint needs.

The podcast discusses the concept of erotic blueprints and how they relate to sexual challenges. The five different blueprints outline personality types and how individuals are wired for pleasure and arousal. By understanding these blueprints, individuals can identify which blueprint they are and what their needs are. This information can help individuals communicate their desires effectively and improve their sexual experiences.

The podcast also emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility in pleasure positive living. It is crucial for individuals to take responsibility for their pleasure and engage in life from a place of honor. By doing so, individuals can experience a more fulfilling sexual experience.

The podcast also addresses common sexual challenges, such as boredom and not knowing what one wants. These challenges can be overcome by understanding one's needs and taking responsibility for their pleasure. Additionally, the podcast encourages individuals to communicate their desires effectively and take an active role in their sexual experiences.

Overall, understanding one's erotic blueprint needs is crucial to improving sexual experiences. By taking responsibility for one's pleasure and communicating desires effectively, individuals can experience a more fulfilling sexual experience. The Climax membership community offers access to sex experts who provide direct coaching to help individuals identify and communicate their desires effectively. Pleasure positive living emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's pleasure and engaging in life from a place of honor.

Relax your butthole for pleasure.

One aspect of pleasure positive living that is often overlooked is the importance of relaxing one's butthole. This may seem like a strange concept, but it is actually a crucial part of experiencing full pleasure during sexual encounters. In a recent podcast episode, sex experts discussed the importance of relaxing one's butthole in order to fully experience pleasure.

The episode focused on the concept of active receiving, which involves taking responsibility for one's pleasure and engaging in sexual encounters from a place of honor. This means being present in the moment and noticing any challenges that may be present. When individuals are able to identify these challenges, they can then take steps to address them and engage in pleasure in a more fulfilling way.

For individuals with an energetic erotic blueprint, feeling safe and engaging in slower-paced activities is crucial to experiencing arousal. However, when they are not in a safe space or are overwhelmed by too much stimulation, they may experience tension and a freeze response. This can make it difficult to fully engage in pleasure and experience the full range of sensations.

One way to address this challenge is to focus on relaxing the butthole. This may sound strange, but it is actually a crucial part of experiencing pleasure. All of the sphincters in the body are connected, which means that relaxing the sphincter in the eye can also help to relax the sphincter in the butthole. By consciously focusing on relaxing the butthole, individuals can help to relax their entire body and experience pleasure more fully.

This concept may seem unusual, but it is actually grounded in science. The nervous system is connected throughout the body, which means that relaxation in one area can lead to relaxation in other areas as well. By focusing on relaxing the butthole, individuals can help to relax their entire body and experience pleasure more fully.

Overall, the importance of relaxing one's butthole for pleasure is an important concept in pleasure positive living. By taking responsibility for one's pleasure and engaging in sexual encounters from a place of honor, individuals can experience a more fulfilling sexual experience. By focusing on relaxation and taking steps to address any challenges that may be present, individuals can experience pleasure more fully and engage in more satisfying sexual encounters.

Indulge all your senses.

However, relaxation is not the only key to experiencing pleasure. In fact, it is just one aspect of a larger picture. Indulging all of one's senses is critical to experiencing pleasure to the fullest extent possible. This is particularly true for those who identify as sensual blueprints.

Sensual blueprints are keenly aware of all of their senses. They need the way things sound, smell, taste, feel, and look to be in a pleasurable space to be present and in the zone. When something is off, they can get stuck in their head, and their arousal may not show up. This is why indulging all of one's senses is so crucial for the sensual blueprint.

To indulge all of one's senses, one must take a holistic approach to pleasure. This means engaging in slow touch, taking time to enjoy the way things taste, putting on music to seduce the ears, and creating a sexual sanctuary that is visually appealing. It also means being mindful of the timing of sexual encounters. Quickies may not be the best approach for those who identify as sensual blueprints. Instead, these individuals need time to indulge in all of their senses fully.

Indulging all of one's senses is not just important for the sensual blueprint. It is also critical for those who identify as energetic blueprints. These individuals need slow touch to feel more enticed by touch and engagement. If touch is too fast, or if sex mimics the way it is portrayed in the media, energetic blueprints may recoil. Slowing down and engaging in slow touch on oneself can be incredibly beneficial for this blueprint.

Ultimately, indulging all of one's senses is critical for experiencing pleasure to the fullest extent possible. It is a holistic approach that takes into account all of the ways in which our senses contribute to our sexual experiences. By taking the time to indulge in all of our senses, we can experience more fulfilling sexual encounters and live a more pleasure-positive life.

Deck out space for sensual self-care.

One way to indulge in sensual self-care is by decking out one's space to create an environment that is conducive to pleasure. This means creating a space that is visually appealing, comfortable, and inviting. When we walk into a space that is already turning us on, we are more likely to be in the right mindset for sexual exploration and pleasure.

Creating a sensual space can involve a variety of elements, such as lighting, decor, scents, and textures. For example, adding candles or dimming the lights can create a more intimate atmosphere, while soft blankets or plush pillows can make the space more comfortable. Incorporating scents like essential oils or incense can also help to set the mood and create a relaxing environment.

It's important to note that creating a sensual space is not just about aesthetics. It's also about creating a space that feels safe and comfortable, where we can let go of any inhibitions or anxieties and fully embrace our desires. This can involve setting boundaries and communicating our needs with any partners we may have, as well as taking the time to explore our own bodies through self-pleasure.

In addition to creating a sensual space, it's also important to take care of ourselves on a deeper level. This may involve exploring our own sexual blueprints and understanding what we need to feel fulfilled and satisfied. For example, if we have a high sexual blueprint, we may need to prioritize regular self-pleasure to avoid feeling needy or frustrated.

Ultimately, indulging in sensual self-care is about prioritizing our own pleasure and taking the time to create an environment that supports it. Whether we're exploring our own bodies or engaging with partners, creating a space that feels safe, comfortable, and inviting can help us to fully embrace our desires and experience pleasure to the fullest extent possible.

Understanding sexual blueprints and needs.

One way to better understand our sexual needs and desires is through the concept of sexual blueprints. Each person has a unique blueprint that shapes their sexual preferences and behaviors. There are five main blueprints: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shape-shifter. By identifying our own blueprint, we can gain insight into what turns us on and what we need to feel fulfilled in our sexual experiences.

For those with an energetic blueprint, sexual pleasure is often linked to emotional and spiritual connection. This may involve exploring different forms of energy exchange, such as tantric practices or breathwork. Sensual blueprints, on the other hand, prioritize physical touch and sensory experiences. This may involve indulging in luxurious textures, scents, and tastes, or engaging in slow, sensual touch.

For those with a sexual blueprint, pleasure often comes from physical arousal and orgasm. This may involve exploring different sexual positions, techniques, or fantasies. Kinky blueprints enjoy exploring taboo or edgy experiences, and may need to feel validated and celebrated in their desires. Finally, shape-shifter blueprints may enjoy exploring different aspects of their sexuality at different times, depending on their mood and desires.

Understanding our own blueprint can help us to communicate our needs and desires to partners, and to create experiences that are truly fulfilling. It can also help us to better understand and accept ourselves, and to embrace our own unique sexual preferences without shame or judgment.

Ultimately, understanding our sexual blueprints and needs is about prioritizing our own pleasure and creating a space where we feel safe and comfortable exploring our desires. Whether we're engaging in self-pleasure or exploring with partners, taking the time to understand and honor our own needs can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences.

Variety is key for pleasure.

One key aspect of understanding our sexual blueprints is recognizing the importance of variety. As discussed in a recent podcast, the shapeshifter blueprint in particular thrives on novelty and variety in their sexual experiences. Routine can quickly become boring and lead to disinterest, which can be detrimental to overall pleasure and satisfaction. It's important to recognize that this need for variety is not limited to the shapeshifter blueprint alone. All individuals have unique preferences and desires when it comes to sexual experiences, and incorporating variety can help to keep things exciting and engaging. However, it's important to note that incorporating variety doesn't necessarily mean trying something completely new or out of one's comfort zone every time. It can simply mean switching up the routine or trying something slightly different. Additionally, for those who may struggle with identifying their own desires and needs, incorporating variety can help to stimulate exploration and self-discovery. By trying new things and paying attention to what feels good, individuals can better understand their own sexual preferences and communicate them to partners. Ultimately, prioritizing pleasure and incorporating variety can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences. By understanding our own sexual blueprints and needs, we can create a space where we feel comfortable exploring and expressing our desires, leading to a more satisfying and pleasurable sex life.

Pleasure is our birthright.

In a recent podcast, the topic of pleasure was explored, with the idea that pleasure is our birthright. The speakers discussed the importance of recognizing pleasure as a gift that is wired into every cell of our body. They noted that pleasure has often been seen as dangerous, but that recognizing its power can help individuals stand against patriarchy and other oppressive systems.

The speakers emphasized the importance of modeling pleasure as a lifestyle, so that future generations can learn from seeing pleasure prioritized and valued. They noted that pleasure is experienced in the body, and that getting out of our heads and into our bodies is key to experiencing pleasure. By checking in with our bodies and paying attention to what feels good, we can better understand our own sexual preferences and communicate them to partners.

The speakers also discussed the importance of incorporating variety in order to stimulate exploration and self-discovery. By trying new things and paying attention to what feels good, individuals can better understand their own desires and needs. This can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences, as individuals prioritize pleasure and create a space where they feel comfortable exploring and expressing their desires.

Overall, the message of the podcast was clear: pleasure is our birthright, and prioritizing pleasure can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying life. By recognizing the power of pleasure and modeling it as a lifestyle, we can create a world where pleasure is valued and prioritized, and where individuals feel comfortable exploring and expressing their desires.

Explore your erotic blueprint today.

One way to explore and understand our desires is through the concept of the erotic blueprint, as discussed in the podcast. The erotic blueprint is a framework that helps individuals identify their unique sexual preferences and desires. By understanding our own blueprint, we can communicate our needs to our partners and create more fulfilling sexual experiences.

The first step in exploring our erotic blueprint is to become more aware of our bodies and sensations. This can be done through somatic practices such as mindfulness, meditation, and yoga. By connecting with our bodies, we can better understand our desires and communicate them to our partners.

Another way to explore our erotic blueprint is through the erotic blueprint quiz, which is available on the guest speaker's website. This quiz helps individuals identify their primary erotic blueprint type, which can include energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, or shapeshifter. By understanding our blueprint type, we can better understand our desires and communicate them to our partners.

In addition to the quiz, the guest speaker offers free guides on her website to help individuals understand their desires and improve sexual communication. For those interested in diving deeper, she also offers private coaching to help individuals make deeper changes surrounding their sexual pleasure.

Overall, exploring our erotic blueprint can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life. By prioritizing pleasure and understanding our desires, we can create more meaningful connections with our partners and experience more pleasure in our lives. So, let's explore our erotic blueprint today and embrace the power of pleasure.